Happy Moon’s Day
I have spent the greater part of October planning and organizing the plan for my life post-pastor and post-Christianity. Now it is time to act. This last week has been a little rough for me, as I have spent way too much time thinking on the past and trying to shake it. The real thing I think I am facing is the fact that with a lot of parts of the past, I lack closure. Things ‘ended’ with several things in my life with what I would consider bad endings. If they had been written out as part of one of my stories, I would have definitely considered a rewrite to at least provide some sense of ending for the reader. The way things actually went down, there is no sense of that. At least from my side there isn’t.
It’s why things don’t sit well with me on several past issues and this is something that is affecting me and my wife, so I will probably talk about it at our next counseling session. I can’t go into all the details, but I think I need a way to find some closure on some things and I just don’t know how yet. That’s part of my next task personally.
As it is, I need to fight the anger, sadness and The Grey that comes with this struggle, so the time to Journal and Act on all the planning I have done this last month is now. I need to stay busy and thus keep walking this journey I call my life.
“Honor is the feeling of inner value and worth from which one knows that one is noble of being, and the desire to show respect for this quality when it is found in the world”
Principle – Be positive about my future
The real question for me is honor. In some of these past cases, I feel people got the better of me by taking advantage of my vulnerability. In some cases, it is myself that needs to apologize for my actions. In some cases, it is simply that the way I parted with someone just wasn’t right. There are many things left unsaid and undone.
It’s hard to be positive about my future when the past reminds me of my failures. It needs to be dealt with properly and in some cases, it might not be possible. I need to calm myself through meditation at these times and refocus on the future. It’s just something I need to get better at doing.
“Courage is the bravery to do what is right always.”
Principle – Act with Courage at the right time.
Three things are required for courage to take place. 1) To know what the right thing is. 2) To know what to do about it and 3) To know when to do it. It’s this three-fold thing that keeps me engaged in evaluation of every action that requires courage.
If there is a closure regret that I can relay specifically, it’s that I truly wish I could go back in time and handle my church resignation myself. What I should have done is taken a Sunday off to think about it and then resigned in person the next Sunday after that. Perhaps then things would have been different, but who knows. For future reference some notes to self: 1) If there is something hard to do, do it yourself and 2) Don’t trust others to do things for you that directly affect you – they will either fuck it up or fuck you over, so do it yourself.
“Truth is the willingness to be honest and to say what one knows to be true and right. It is often better to not say anything at all if one cannot be honest.”
Principle – Pursue knowledge, wisdom and truth at all times.
Being honest with myself is more the struggle these days. It is easy to blame others and I am not saying others are not to blame at times, but you can only control what you do, so knowing the truth is helpful in that regard. If others do indeed fuck you over, then fine, but make sure you learn what you could have done better first before seeking justice.
I pursue any knowledge I think will benefit me in the future. These days this pursuit is done with a lot of practicality in mind.
- Review Nine Noble Virtues (NNV) and Principles
- Review Goals
- Review Bucket List
- Full Body Stretch
- Meditate on One of the Virtues
- Supplements and Medicines
- Shower and Personal Hygiene
- Get Dressed for the Day
This has been going really well so far, but I had to make one change in the order which was to put my meditation after my full body stretch. This is more of a practical thing as I end my stretching on the floor and so it’s a simple matter to go lotus position at that point and just meditate for a couple of minutes on the Virtue for the day. Other than that I think the whole thing is a good order and working well for me.
- Go Back to Budapest, Hungary for a vacation.
- Get My Tattoos.
- Actually Get Drunk.
- Smoke a Joint.
- Hike the Northern Lakeshore Trail along the Pictured Rocks National Lakeshore in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan.
- Write My Novel.
- Learn Latin.
- Learn Hungarian.
- Weightlifting – Bench 225 lbs, Squat 315 lbs, and Deadlift 405 lbs.
- Start my own business
I think the one thing on this list that is the most possible is getting my first tattoo once I have the money. I mean I could do the Smoke a Joint thing but I am trying to keep clean for job search purposes. Once school is over I think the novel and Learning Latin might be next. The weightlifting goals will come when they come.
Weightlifting’s great challenge right now is picking which days to do it. My schedule at work is different days every week. So the thing is that I need to make four trips to the gym a week. This means sometimes its weekend days as well. This is simply necessary because trying to lift after a long day of work and school and then late gym session can be too much. I found out Sunday morning is pretty empty at the gym.
The Rabyd Skald – Wandering Soul, Bard and Philosopher. The Grey Wayfarer.