Happy Saturn’s Day
No Crossin Bifrost this week. I just don’t have the time for proper research. There however might be another Rogue Wizard this weekend.
If you ever had that moment where you are standing outside and you can see the edge of a storm coming in toward you, then you might have an idea of what I am feeling. It’s the storm known as The Grey and what is causing it is memories of the past, particularly from this time last year. I know it is coming and I know it is going to be tough. I also know it is probably unavoidable. The list of problems is already forming in my head.
- My last sermon was May 27th, 2018 and I haven’t been in a church since May 28th, 2018. It a kind of bittersweet milestone. I miss my people at times but they also fired me after years of preaching love, grace, and forgiveness. Seems like my words were wasted. Twenty years of ministry is over and I am sure that some small amount of Grey will try to creep into my life over it because I feel largely it accomplished very little.
- Last year my wife and I were separated from May 27th until August 19th. We called off our divorce pretty much with days to spare. This last year has been a time of counseling and work to get our relationship back on track. It has been good but we are both going to hit our 30th anniversary this year and remember that last year we were separated for it. We hopefully will use our mini-vacation to make some better memories for next year. One thing I am glad of is I won’t have to deal with an annual church even which caused us to miss our anniversary to stay and work at the church for many years on that day.
- A good friend betrayed me last year and is no longer a friend. I suspected he wasn’t the most loyal of a person based on his track record with others; but still, I trusted him and he took advantage of that so he could come off the white knight riding to the rescue. Yeah, still burns me and I patiently wait for karma to bite his ass. That knife in my back through left a scar and I am sure it will flare up as we head through May and June.
- Lost love. I deal with the pain of loss here as much as I wish I didn’t. Forgiveness has been easy on this one except for the one thing I have previously mentioned. It is just my nature to forgive those I have loved unless betrayal is involved. I don’t feel that way about this one, she had the decency to at least stab in the chest and look me in the face when she did it. I just feel I took a chance, rolled the dice and lost. Unfortunately, it was my heart the dice were being rolled for and it got hurt because of that loss. My new love for my wife is helping; but like all things, it takes time and I am sure it will never fully heal. It never does.
So what to do when you know you have a storm to walk through? Well, knowing it is coming helps so you can prepare. Resolving to walk on regardless is the simple act of a survivor. I know what the memories involved; know the emotions involved. I have dealt with them before. Knowing is half the battle as GI Joe used to say. The rest of the battle is actually having the courage to keep walking and to act when necessary.
Well, time to pull the collar up around my neck and my hat down. Time to make sure my robes and cloak are pulled tight around me. Have the wolves and ravens go ahead and scout the path. A storm is coming and I need to keep walking.
The Rabyd Skald – Wandering Soul, Bard, and Philosopher. The Grey Wayfarer.